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    June 19

    思念你

    当一觉醒来
    发现昨天渐渐离我远去
    一无所有的我
    只好选择听听博客里的冷秋旋律
    昨天记载着伤感, 以为它会离去
    可为何总是流连忘返
    终究还是找不到回家的路
    时常一个人发呆,时常沉默
    请原谅那不是冷漠
    思念不是一瞬间的事
    能不能为彼此停下脚步
    能不能为彼此放弃
    当我们离去
    究竟是谁在做谁的梦
     
     
    爱像下场微薄的雪
    独舞,孤独,麻木,寻找
    记住的,遗忘的
    丢失的记忆
    像风中的苇花无迹可寻
    我总在问
    下一站又将通往何处
     
    人徘徊在崩溃边缘
    不停的走,不停地逃
    要勇敢,一直勇敢
    假装不孤单
    等待着天空
    却依然没有飞鸟
    思念你
    让风带我离去
    伴我孤独
     
    我愿做永远孤独的孩子
    在过去和未来时空交错中燃烧殆尽
    遗忘是给彼此最好的思念
    我给你最好的疼爱
    是, 把手放开
     
    想念你
    静静的
    然后离开
    March 23

    有一种情感,只能用心去储藏 (女人篇)

                            
        活这半辈子,总会碰到几个特别的人,这类人可能只是你纯粹的精神寄托,但他不能被单纯的划归为朋友,因为他对你倾注的关爱超出了一般朋友的界限和理念,可你和他又不曾有过将之升华为爱人的那种具体行为,你们之间或者常常淡如水……

        所以,这一类人,应该是介于情人与朋友之间的吧,你和他之间的那种情感,那种超乎于寻常的友情、又不能简单的归类到爱情的情感,也只能是介于友情与爱情之间,也许你将它凌驾于友情与爱情之上。他,可能曾经因你悲伤难过轻拍过你的背,可能因你怕黑牵过你的手,可能因你迷茫哭泣拥你入怀安抚,却,仅止于此。他的心时刻对你敞开,他的肩膀时刻准备让你依靠,你却只将他的容颜刻在了心房上……

        你们不会放任自己散出耀眼的爱情光芒,不会放任自己燃出炙热的爱情火焰。你静静的想他,默默地念他。在你快乐的想唱歌欢跳时,你会在第一时间告诉他,因为你希望他在你的身边一起分享你的快乐和无忧,一同拥抱幸福……

        可是,当你忧愁烦恼的时候,你同样会想起他,你依然希望他能陪在你身边,给你个坚实的臂弯让你靠,尽管你不需要他的任何语言任何安慰,只要倚在他的身边,你就会心静如水,熬过所有锥心疼痛,可事实上,你却不曾向他诉说过,你怕属于自己的那份忧伤妨碍他平静的生活,你不想让他同你一起承担痛苦,你只是热切的希望他的世界里只有阳光沐浴……

        你或许会因为一首怀旧的老歌、一幕恋人的牵手想起他,想起他的宽容,想起他的宠爱,你或许会因为一道似曾相识的风景、一种触动心灵的相似的容颜想起他,想起他的真诚,想起他的执着,你更会因为午夜的星空、遥远的月亮想起他,想起他曾经带给你的欢乐,想起他带给你的无眠的美好……

        此时,你的心里总是暖暖的,有三分美好,有三分感动,有三分憧憬,更有一分执着。你会执着于与他的情,与他的缘,他的叮咛,他的嘱咐,让你含着泪水说:你好罗嗦好烦人哦,心里却酸酸的,感觉那么的窝心,想留住时间一晌贪欢……

        你不求拥有,只盼能痴痴的守侯,你想绑住他在身旁,却怕妨碍他在蓝天白云间翱翔的自由,那些世俗的传统的道德理念,因他而瓦解,即使成为世人眼中的叛离者,而你只是在心底深处为这个人留了一个小小的空间,静静地固守着那份说不清的情感,即使陪伴寂寞,你亦不会后悔……

        生命有时是无奈的,生活有时又是残酷的,当你觉得生命象一潭死水,寂静的没有一圈涟漪泛起时,你会心慌;当你觉得生活如一棵枯树,风干的寻不到一点生命的迹象时,你会心悸,你怕被生命遗忘,你怕被生活吞噬,但是,因为有了他的存在,你的生命多了条雨后的彩虹,你的生活有了满目的苍翠……

        也许,终其一生你们也不会产生经典的"执子之手,与子偕老"的爱情故事,但是,你会因为拥有了这样一个朋友,更加的热爱自己的生活,珍惜自己的生命。其实,你和他注定是两条没有交集的线段、夜空中闪烁的两颗永不相撞的星,不会酝酿出爱情果实,而且,你觉得似乎谈起爱情就亵渎了你们之间这份感情,这只能是一种超乎自然的、凌驾于爱情和友情之上的纯纯的另类情感……

        因为拥有了这种超然的情感,你变得更加的懂得坚强的生活,含笑走过那平淡的生命。即使没有一起慢慢变老,你依然心醉,为你拥有了那些无尽的回想与幻想,回想从前,幻想未来……你会很高兴,曾经拥有过那样一位朋友,曾经拥有过那样一份感情,纯净而又淡然,真挚而又绵长……

        你想他念他,或许你们的相识相知只是瞬间,可要彻底地忘记他却将花费你的一生,甚至终其一生他都会盘踞在你的内心深处,但是,你却很感激命运,感谢上苍给了你这样一个人,一个让你在这个世界上不再孤单,不再寂寞的人,即使是痛苦,也甜过麻木和苍白…… 虽然,他不会永远的陪伴在你的身边,虽然,你不曾要求他为你做些什么,你却希望他会过很好,过的幸福安康,因为你知道他也希望你过的很好,他也希望你能好好照顾自己,哪怕万水千山。如果再见面时,他希望你能告诉他你很幸福

        在这复杂的社会当中,在这无奈的人生当中,有这样一个人,当你不慎跌倒时,只要一抬头就可以看到关爱,当你走得疲倦时,只要一转身就可以找到依靠;有这样一种情感,当你受伤时会及时给予你宽慰,当你绝望时会及时拯救你的灵魂,你还奢求什么?

        这样一个人、这样一种情感,让你飘荡的心变得柔软脆弱,让饱受折磨的心拥有了温润的一隅,更让你独享着一生眷恋和牵伴、一世宽容和给予,拥有着今生的思念与回忆、来生的执着与寄托!这到底是怎样一类朋友,怎样一种情感?你只知道它真无香、淡如水……

        有一种情感,只能拿心去感受;有一种情感,只能用心去储藏…… 


     

    October 22

    梅花妆

     

    近日轻狂,人扶醉,月依墙,是今日,孰与争? 茫茫然,时常老子天下第一的感觉.昨夜深,偶回想前几日一朋友给我讲的他的故事,大爱之下,工作争锋何其让人不屑,真爱无疆,可洗涤骚动的心灵.

    这是一个男孩和一个女孩的故事:

    女孩静静地坐在妆台前,双唇轻轻抿着口红,细细地在镜子前描化着自己的容颜.简单的线条,性感的轮廓,渗透着无限的诱惑.

    她裹起透明的白纱,添出少许娇羞的姿态,模样里尽写着妩媚,风情.纱内裸露着她纤细,阿娜的身体. 修长的手指在空中拖过一道弧线,拂扫着垂下的几屡灰白的与年龄不相符合的头发.湿湿的长发轻轻地洒下来,空气中还飘着沐浴后的清香.

    她拿起眉笔,精心在额头上排着梅花状的花朵,把双眉描得像柳叶一样修长.

    换衣服的时候,纱裳滑下,女孩的身体舒展开来,像要飞翔一样.细长的眼睛,雪白柔软的脖颈,瘦削精巧的肩头,丰满高耸的胸和圆润挺翘的臀衬托腰的轻盈,修长的腿---每一处题满缱绻,每一处藏满了惊艳.

    套好衣服,跻着木屐,咯噔 咯噔的脚步声,揭下了往事的花片…

     

    男孩与女孩一起长大,青梅竹马,两小无猜.小时候,两人曾躲在星空下勾着小指头约定—她只做他的新娘,他只做她的新郎.

    他们相恋了十几年.但大学还未毕业,他们却分手了.

    这个世界充满了诱惑,时常迷惑了眼睛.虚幻了真实的生活和真实的幸福.

    那是个早上,他们默默对视而坐,望着那双熟悉不过的眼睛.她的泪水不自觉地逃出来.她的眼睛不是很大,小小的,所以才装不了太多的泪水.

    “不要哭! 我不要看到你流泪的样子!”

    “你!”她甩开他的手,”我不要你了! 是我先不要你的!”

    后来,女孩成了富商的情人.有后来,男孩也交了女朋友,再后来,女孩出事了…

     

    女孩出事那天,男孩在和女朋友的家人商量着婚事.当接到女孩出事的消息时,他知道,他也彻底丢失了手中的幸福.

    女孩的病情一直没有好转,就这样痴痴的,傻傻的.没年的年终,总有人捎来巨额的补偿费.

    每周的周末,女孩会这样地梳妆着.

    裸着身子,披着白纱,坐在妆台前,打扮自己的面容,戚戚地描着眉,恨恨地化着唇,踩着木屐,在卧室里踏着,踏得很轻,生怕震碎妆台上的镜子.

    女孩时常从噩梦里井醒,学着那富商老婆的口气,指着自己惊叫着.

    男孩会从地铺上跳起来,抱着她,吹抚着她额头的冷汗.女孩紧紧环绕着男孩,眼睛却呆呆地投在天花板上.窗外的路灯时而被车辆的灯光倒嵌在窗口上,像一个人的脸.

    女孩的指尖深深沉如男孩肩头的肉里.男孩却轻轻抹下她眼角流下的泪水,再次轻声地说:”没事的,你会没事的!”

    女孩像一只风筝,在天空随风而动,携着那条细线……

    我住长江头,君住长江尾;

    日日思君不见君,共饮长江水.

    此水几时休?此恨何时已?

    只愿君心似我心,定不负相思意.--------李之仪(宋) <<卜算子>>

    September 26

    等待爱情

    等待爱情,其实是等待一个人吗?在我的心中,永远留有一个位置,那就是心灵的平静!

      想想所谓的爱情,一个人爱上另一个人,从此就开始思念、揣想、守望、等候。这一个过程,也许就是我们长长的一生。终于等来了爱情,那是幸福,终究没有等到爱情,也许那也是一种幸福。我相信,有一个终老一生可以等待的人,是幸福的,或许它在天边
    .

      在茫茫人海中,在我们擦肩而过的时候,是咫尺也是天涯。等待爱情,等待那一个人,是幸福也是悲哀,是甜蜜也是痛苦,在这世上,注定有一些人,需要我们用一生等待,无论你是否等得来…无论你在思念,它在欢笑
    .

      我不知道我是否是在等一个人,我所要等待的那一趟班车已经晚点。可有时,总有些不愿展开自己的一部分记忆,可是折叠起来的那部分就能忘记吗?那些在心灵最深的不是快乐,是痛,是痛掩盖了所有曾经的快乐.不敢去触碰, 碰了,很痛!!!

    很想把它当作一种历程,也许经此一驿,或是沉沦或是重生,可那痛的种子还在,我知道,它还在! 因为只要有触摸,它还在痛,那些风花雪月的故事一个又一个发生着,接连不断的战争与戏剧。 爱了,哭了,心痛了,结束了,却还在期盼远离的心归来,结束后破碎的心还不停的颤抖,感觉着过往的一切像出没有结局的电影早早的落幕,男女主角匆匆告退,粉碎了曾经的承诺。全心演绎一出也许没有结果的爱情戏,男女主角重复着曾经在上出戏的那些动人的呓语,同样的玫瑰和领带......当约定如期而至,试图挽留用尽心思,如初始般对待旧爱那般方式阻挠。

      爱,独处一隅,看着窗外花开花落又是一年,一次次的可望,如数家珍的提出点滴回忆温暖着自己,等待就是对自己的告解,在爱情森林里迷失的人,找不到出路,默许着没有归途的幸福,就此停留,一个人的煎熬,自己划地为牢,把自己锁进地狱连同心,双手捂住纠结的胸口,闭上眼,轻叹一声。原来关注也会带来困扰,当真爱泛滥后,便设下结界,成为两个世界,像狐狸般,不允许靠近。把心一遍遍撕碎,一遍遍拼凑,安慰自己说已经爱过已足已,常常夜里一个人独自听心碎的声音,抽走了温暖的右手,放我的左手在空中凄冷孤寂的颤栗。

      爱与痛,关于生命的忧与情。人生中有太多的东西都是无以逃脱的,依如午夜过后,眺望的都市霓虹在思绪恍惚的瞬惜之间分不清了冷暖,直到那么一天,终会给彻底了,却几分沉重,几分浮;几人欣喜,几人悠! ...

     

      在梦里,那一天,我矗立在经阁香雾中,蓦然听到你诵经中的箴言;那一月,我转动所有的经筒,不为超度,只为触摸你的指尖;那一年,我磕长头匍匐在山路,不为觐见,只为贴着你的温暖;那一世,我转山转水转佛塔,不为修来世,只为在途中与你相见。然后,我的心从此得到安宁与平静.

    July 07

    William Faulkner

    Nobel Prize Acceptance Speech / William Faulkner

    I feel that this award was not made to me as a man, but to my work -- a life's work in the agony and sweat of the human spirit, not for glory and least of all for profit, but to create out of the materials of the human spirit something which did not exist before. So this award is only mine in trust. It will not be difficult to find a dedication for the money part of it commensurate with the purpose and significance of its origin. But I would like to do the same with the acclaim too, by using this moment as a pinnacle from which I might be listened to by the young men and women already dedicated to the same anguish and travail, among whom is already that one who will some day stand here where I am standing.

    Our tragedy today is a general and universal physical fear so long sustained by now that we can even bear it. There are no longer problems of the spirit. There is only the question: When will I be blown up? Because of this, the young man or woman writing today has forgotten the problems of the human heart in conflict with itself which alone can make good writing because only that is worth writing about, worth the agony and the sweat.

    He must learn them again. He must teach himself that the basest of all things is to be afraid; and, teaching himself that, forget it forever, leaving no room in his workshop for anything but the old verities and truths of the heart, the old universal truths lacking which any story is ephemeral and doomed -- love and honor and pity and pride and compassion and sacrifice. Until he does so, he labors under a curse. He writes not of love but of lust, of defeats in which nobody loses anything of value, of victories without hope and, worst of all, without pity or compassion. His griefs grieve on no universal bones, leaving no scars. He writes not of the heart but of the glands.

    Until he relearns these things, he will write as though he stood among and watched the end of man. I decline to accept the end of man. It is easy enough to say that man is immortal simply because he will endure: that when the last ding-dong of doom has clanged and faded from the last worthless rock hanging tideless in the last red and dying evening, that even then there will still be one more sound: that of his puny inexhaustible voice, still talking. I refuse to accept this. I believe that man will not merely endure: he will prevail. He is immortal, not because he alone among creatures has an inexhaustible voice, but because he has a soul, a spirit capable of compassion and sacrifice and endurance.

    The poet's, the writer's, duty is to write about these things. It is his privilege to help man endure by lifting his heart, by reminding him of the courage and honor and hope and pride and compassion and pity and sacrifice which have been the glory of his past. The poet's voice need not merely be the record of man, it can be one of the props, the pillars to help him endure and prevail.
    June 26

    <<左右>>为爱

     

    听惯了母亲的叮咛和嘱咐,知道那是种天然的呵护,已经不再温暖和感动,本能地应付和不耐烦的挂断.无聊得想去洗洗脸,想洗去什么呢?抬起头看到镜子里的自己,突然想起刚刚看过的影片<<左右>>,各种各样的爱中,母爱最大,最无私,同样在影片中出现很多镜子的镜头,我知道那是主人公迫切地需要反省,也看得出反省是那么的痛苦和艰难.但母爱战胜了一起伦理.

    <<左右>>是左右为难,还是左右逢源呢?我一直在思考着,想不通导演为什么会选择这样的片名,他好像回避开了现实批判的焦虑,而让镜头穿透现实而伸进在那里生活的人的内心深处,去询问一个个体的困窘,而不再让这个个体去充当集体的代表.是社会发展到今天,个性化生存在艺术宣传领域的一次尝试,展现,和升华.

    故事的表现不再套路化和平常化,主人公遇到的不是公正或者贫苦问题,是伦理的困境,而正是这伦理问题,让我们无从去判断正确与错误.感觉很压抑,又辩不清压力从何而来,挣扎着寻找不到出路去解决主人公枚竹的孩子得了白血病,医生告诉她可以用兄弟姐妹的脐带血救孩子.然而,她早已和孩子的父亲离了婚,并且两个人各自有了家庭.于是就开始了借父生子的伦理纠葛,迷茫,惆怅,彷徨充斥在影片及影片之外的每一思考的断片儿记忆中.

    看完<<左右>>不会很撕心裂肺,一场伦理困境看似庸常地在中途就接了尾,不能说是创作的问题,而是自己观赏上的奢求.总感觉有太多水面下的欲言又止和意犹未尽,以至于想为母亲的纠结哭泣,想为后父的大爱流泪的种种情感没有得以释放.

    我私底认为后父亲老谢是主角,是片中的灵魂,是爱升华的终结.是他让道德的困境不再是困境.影片的前期,窝囊的老谢让我怜悯,可当老谢意外地从手机里听到到妻子的背叛现场传音时,在儿童天真的歌声背景里目睹他惊呆的面孔,我的心为他揪了起来,很欣慰电影结束于来谢,命运给了他苦,他给了命运爱,老谢结尾的陈词,就像是喝完中药后,嘴里含的一粒糖.他是勇敢的爱人.

     

    <<左右>>实际上提出了更多的问题,以爱的名义去上一张没有爱的床(这张床耐人寻味地摆放在客厅而不是卧室); 为了无私的爱缺自私地绑架别人的家庭;奉献自己的全部却不停地向身边的人索取这才是我们需要面对的现实的悖论和荒谬.当命运的苦海来到我们面前时,我们真正需要面对的还是自己.当爱在自私与无私,索取与奉献,挚爱与冷漠中困惑时,相信爱也同时升华拉… …

    (我喜欢简单的爱:有一种爱叫相濡以沫,另一种叫遗忘江湖…)

    May 19

    宁愿相信他们还在…

    宁愿相信你还在

    7天了,我都睡在沙发上,电视都是整夜的开着,困了,睡会儿,醒了接着看,看军队和武警去了10万人,看西线从理县进入汶川的道路全线被打通,一万多名医务工作者进入了灾区,同时也看到了全国人民在捐款捐物,献血看救人,看人被救,泪水来了,又去了,又来了每时每刻都在感动着,我不敢看报纸,怕流泪,怕心痛.

     

    痛苦的七天煎熬着过去拉,此时坐在这里,眼睛直望着时针和分针,一步一步,远离那个时刻:12日14时28分.那个时刻,震痛了每个中国人心的那个时刻.

    随着时间的慢慢流逝,我的心也随着一阵阵发紧.虽然我深知72小时是黄金救援时间,理性告诉我,现实异常严峻而残酷,但我处宁愿相信超过72小时的等待和坚持,相信生命的顽强毅力.

    我实在太想把废墟中的生命都救出来,让他们有机会知道,从地动山摇的那一刻起,有多少人遥望灾区,眼里饱含着泪水,胸中沸腾着救援的热血,恨不能在第一时间飞到废墟前,化十指为工具,哪怕十指鲜血淋漓

    我知道你们会来救我,我相信你们会来救我还记得一位受救人的话.今天又看到有人奇迹般的活下来,被解救,此时,我还是愿意固执地期待,废墟下面的那些生命,仍然在微弱也是顽强地等待着最后的救援.一息尚存,我们就百倍努力,就放飞希望.

    我不停地期待,也因此,我也发现,我对这片热土原来爱得如此深沉.

     

    18日夜

    March 22

    Opposition's Ma wins Taiwan poll

     
     

    20070322 BBC頭條新聞:Opposition's Ma wins Taiwan poll

     
    ma
     
    The opposition candidate in Taiwan's presidential election, Ma Ying-jeou, has won a clear victory. The opposition candidate in Taiwan's presidential election, Ma Ying-jeou, has won a clear victory.
     

    Official results put Mr Ma, of the Kuomintang party, nearly 17 percentage points ahead of Frank Hsieh of the ruling Democratic Progressive Party.

    Both candidates advocated closer economic ties with China, but differed over the pace and degree of change.

    Mr Ma pledged to strengthen commercial ties more quickly than Mr Hsieh, who took a more cautious approach.

    He will succeed arch-nationalist Chen Shui-bian, who steps down in May.

    Over 17 million people were eligible to vote and turnout figures are expected to be high.

    'No war'

    Final official results from the central election commission give Mr Ma 58.45%, while his rival Mr Hsieh trails on 42.55%. A huge crowd cheered and whistled at opposition Kuomintang headquarters, and firecrackers were set off across the capital, Taipei, as the preliminary results were reported on local TV networks.

    "People want a clean a government instead of a corrupt one," said Mr Ma, quoted by AP news agency.

    "They want a good economy, not a sluggish one. They don't want political feuding. They want peace across the Taiwan Strait. No war."

    The Kuomintang also won a sweeping victory in parliamentary polls in January, and now commands two-thirds of seats there, so he has a strong mandate to implement his policies, says the BBC's Caroline Gluck in Taiwan.

    Supporters at Mr Hsieh's base were subdued, with many in tears.

    "Don't cry for me today," Mr Hsieh said according to AP.

    Although we lost the election, we have a more important mission. The torch of democracy should not be extinguished."

    Both referendums on whether Taiwan should join the United Nations failed.

    Far too few voters participated in the referendum to validate the results - as at least 50% of eligible voters were needed.

    One of the referendums - which asked whether the island should apply to join under the name Taiwan, rather than the island's official name, the Republic of China - had proved particularly controversial.

    Economic revival

    Many Taiwanese waiting to cast their votes identified the faltering economy as their top priority.

    Mr Ma put the promise of an economic revival at the centre of his election campaign.

    He had set ambitious growth targets - which some analysts say will not be met, unless his second pledge, to establish much closer economic ties with China, is also fulfilled.

    China says that Taiwan is part of its territory, although the two have been separately governed since 1949, and China has never ruled out using force against the island should it move towards formal independence.

    Under President Chen, ties were restricted because of his pro-independence stance.

    Mr Ma wants to act quickly, introducing direct flights to the mainland and easing restrictions on investment in China. He has called for the creation of a "common market".

    He has also proposed the agreement of a formal peace treaty with China.

    'Second Tibet'

    His rival was more cautious, promising dialogue with China while pledging to defend Taiwan's sovereignty.

    The recent unrest in Tibet also become an election issue, with both men speaking out against Beijing.

    Earlier this week Mr Ma talked of a possible Olympic boycott if the situation there deteriorated, though he said on Friday he would not "push the issue to the extreme".

    Mr Hsieh, meanwhile, had argued he would be the best protector of Taiwan's sovereignty, warning that his rival could make Taiwan a "second Tibet".

    兄弟如斯

    兄弟

     

    几日梦回,惊愕于内心的思念,奂远在加国已十年无音信.夜深静静回味,早已从日归国多年的死党亦是时有时无的联系,唯有老高和小侠,酒来酒去,醉里时常触摸到做为兄弟平日无须表白的情谊.

    女人可如酒,可为药,可是火,不过一切皆为一个”情”字.当此世间,芸芸众生,皆为利来,皆为利往.于男人心中重于利者,唯有兄弟啊!!!

    兄弟如山

    ,势巍峨, 望之怯,背可依.兼厚重与伟岸,并深沉与旷达,蓄沉稳与刚毅.

    莎翁在<<傲德赛>>里说”男人内心是缺乏安全感的”.所以男人需要一个像山一样的兄弟,于这纷繁复杂的世界中,纵使相隔千里之外,念及君处,心中有的是那份温暖的踏实和精神上的依靠.

    兄弟如水

    “上善如水,水利万物而不争.”<<老子>>,乃是说,最高境界的行为就象水的平性一样,恩泽万物而无所图.

    不管男人处在什么样的高度,他都需要一个为自己可以两肋插刀的兄弟.这个人不为自己金钱地位,可以承君一诺,舍命相陪.同时,有无这样的兄弟也是一个男人自我价值实现的评判标准—--无女人者为可怜,无兄弟者为可悲!

    兄弟如酒

    ,历久而弥香,性烈而味纯,如勇士之肝胆,如英雄之豪气.

    在这个快节奏的时代里,陈者多为下品.唯有兄弟仍为旧为尊.谁还没有几个就算是半年没见,一见面就乱打乱闹一点也不陌生的老兄弟呢.与他们在一起可以淋漓地宣泄,大碗喝酒,大块吃肉,要的就是这是这直来直往的痛快.迷醉之后,酒气相通,可相拥泣下,也可同枕共眠.

    兄弟如书

    书可教人明事理,断是非,分黑白.

    兄弟不是所谓的酒肉朋友,于酒桌间你来我往,于灯红酒绿中夜夜笙歌,而是你糊涂时给你指指前方的方向.为你掌一盏灯,送你一程路.等你蒙然醍醐灌顶的时候,已经飘然离去.笑容依旧灿烂.

    兄弟如诗

    诗者,在胸为志,发言为诗.

    知道却不太明白你的那些缥缈的理想,不切实际的追求,虽然明知山高水远,道路漫长,却从未劝你放弃的人.无论你的成败,对抗命运的时候共同让热血汹涌的澎湃,放肆地咆哮.可以想象如果生活的高潮部分,没有了他们,如何尽兴?

    兄弟如血

    血者,性命所系,古人常滴血为盟,血熔于水.

    没有里外,不分彼此,人的一生中需要这样几个人,彼此紧密相连像血脉兄弟一样,在最需要的时刻彼此相互扶持,必要时刻,你们乐于共同面对死亡,一同接受磨难.快乐之极,共生死时,热血的共同喷涌和交融……

    兄弟如剑

    剑者,虽万千人,吾往矣.

    兄弟一词,往往就带着一种血性,有着狂躁的鲁莽.就像<<阳光灿烂的日子>>里所描绘的在烈日下光着膀子那些肆无忌惮的青春少年一样,一起冲动干那些没头没脑的往往也是一辈子再也干不了也忘不掉的傻事.

    兄弟如火

    “火着,阳之精也,火性炎”

    古人把火称为五行之一,认为它有气无质,可以生杀万物,精妙无穷.

    <<河图>> 曰:”阳精散而分布为火”,. 雪中送碳,一诺千金.男人所崇尚的火,不仅是前进的力量,更是一种温暖.

    兄弟如万千,诉不尽无数华丽的语言,可真正的兄弟在此时已化做你前行路上的每块行板,围绕你生命的空气,与你同前行,同呼吸……

     

    December 30

    2007我的爱

     GE今夜

     

    在世界的某个角落,

    4秒就有一架由GE的发动机推动的飞机起飞,

    每秒钟都有一位医务工作者在使用GE的医疗设备为患者诊断疾病

    。从著名的自由女神像到中国的人民大会堂,

    GE照明点亮了不同的天空;

    从宝洁的洗发水,宝来车的仪表盘,

    到都灵冬奥会的滑道,

    处处可见GE先进材料的身影。

     

     

     

     

    奋斗篇

     

    我们是GE的战士

    除了奋斗,我别无选择

    我们从不说自己贫穷

    因为我们拥有世界上最宝贵的财富

    GE资源

     

    我们从不认为自己愚昧

    因为我们拥有世界上最高尚的品质

    善良和诚信

     

    我们从不说自己困惑

    因为我们拥有世界上最完美的知音

    团队

     

    我们从不抱怨自己的无知

    因为我们拥有世界上最伟大的智慧

    拼搏

     

    至於我们GE战士的深情,哪里是,P,S能理解!
     
    不能用声音,只能用沒有声音的“声音”加以表达
    .
      
     
    战士自有战士的性格:不怕污蔑,不怕恫嚇;

      
    一切无情的打击,只会使我们腰桿挺直,青春焕發。

      
     
    战士自有战士的抱負:永远学习,从零出发;

     
    一切可耻的衰退,只能使人视若仇敌,踏成泥沙。

      
      
    战士自有战士的胆识:不信流言,不受期詐;

     
    一切无嫉的流言,只会使人神志清醒,头脑发达。

        
      
    战士的歌声,可以休止一时,卻永远不会沙啞;

      
    战士的明眼,可以关闭一时,卻永远不会昏瞎。

      
      
    请听听吧,這就是GE战士一句句從心中掏出的話。

     

     亲情篇

     

    亲爱的亲人们,

    在你们的眼里,

    我们是一块块拒绝溶化的冰,

    依然是零下的冷和固体的硬度,

    因为我们没有假期,没有周末,甚至没有白天和黑夜

    可我们本来也是液体,

    也热爱流动,

    更容易沸腾

    GE的图案----美丽得像条巨龙

    它时刻震撼着我们的每根神经

    令我结晶

    使我们的牙齿永远是紧紧的咬着

    我们的手永远是紧握着

    我们的心永远的肃静

     

    可是我们的灵魂一直清醒着

    我们的彼岸是你们

    你们广大的宽容

    为我们点亮了风雨中的前路…

     

     

    同事篇

     

    过不了多久,

    我们都会两鬓斑白,

    我坚信,

    我们都会破茧成蝶

    但你们依然是我GE的好同事,好伙伴,好搭档

     

    我知道

    GE,我们会是有始无终

    但我们每个人都祝福GE会发展得更好

     

    和你们一起工作的感觉真好

    这种感觉终归成了酒,

    成了笑,成了泪

    滑到嘴角是一起奋斗的滋味

    是彼此熟悉的艰辛和欢笑

     

    很多年以后

    或许我们都以为会忘记

    但一次次幸福的痛

    依旧在清冷的夜里

    你们的消息

    我不能装做与我无关

    因为它血穿了岁月

    让我依然记得你的模样

    而我对你们的思念会更加透明且难忘

     

    我坚信

    你们会在远处向我们微笑

    而岁月已悄悄老去…

      

    展望篇

     

    今天

    我们在和一群优秀的男人和女人喝酒

    你们的兴致很高

    笑声也爽朗

    这一刻终将成为我们美好的记忆

    所以我们要加些憧憬进来

     

    明年我们有很多的事情要做

    最重要的是OP

    所以我们憧憬

    明年有好天气,有好收成

    俗话说:地主家也需要粮食啊

     

    我们憧憬

    我们的亲人们都健健康康

    你们的安详

    是我们启航的风帆

     

    请相信

    我们会是一群出色的杀手,

    且用规矩的头脑思考

    抢人,抢单,抢市场

     

    我们建议

    明年,所有人的眼睛都睁开

    因为我们会站在最高处

    并带着微笑

     

    太多的憧憬给明年

    不过

    我们会继续踏着不变的行板

    点亮2008的每一盏红灯笼

    满世界去寻找成功

    然后

    让我们的生活在成功中化为

    和谐,幸福

     

    November 12

    心中的两个女人(转载)

    • 每个男人一生中都会有两个女人。请不要断言这是一个伪命题,请不要以为这两个女人一个是母亲一个是妻子,请不要说有一批男人事实上已经突破了一夫一妻制,包上了“二奶”。我这说的是普遍事实,普通的你我他,都有或者曾有过两个或者两个以上女人,问题的关键是怎样“拥有”。

       一个是红玫瑰,一个是白玫瑰。红玫瑰代表热情似火,白玫瑰代表纯洁无瑕。如果他娶了红玫瑰,久而久之,红玫瑰就会变成墙壁上的一抹蚊子血,而白玫瑰则如同“床前明月光”,永远那么皎洁亮丽;如果他娶的是白玫瑰,久而久之,白玫瑰就变成衣服上的一粒扣子,而红玫瑰则是心口上的一颗朱砂痣。

       记不得这是哪一位作家说的一段话,这只是说了一对文静与浪漫的女人。两种不同类型或性格的女人还有很多,城市小资型与乡村能干型,相夫教子型和主内主外型,大家闺秀型与小家碧玉型,小鸟依人型与“喧夫夺主”型,生活型与事业型,橱房型与厅堂型,因为很少有女人把两种不同类型和性格能统一到自己一人身上。那种撒切尔夫人叱咤政坛回到家如何温柔地侍候夫君,给他做早点之类的文章,无法修饰她作为女人不足的“铁娘子”形象。因此,任何男人在选择女人时,都要面对这样的选择。即便是情窦初开时就对一种女人情有独钟,只要成了夫妻,他也可能下意识地把自己的妻子与另外一种类型的女人作比较,天长日久,事情往往起变化,由此可以想见人生之无奈。 

       一个年轻的朋友,有两个不同类型的女孩面临自己的选择。一个对自己很主动很体贴,但自己却感觉不大。另一个与自己总是若即若离,自己却反而放心不下。

       一个朋友,儿子都参加工作了,妻子贤惠,自己也很有家庭责任感,但他的心里总有一个远方的梦。还是情窦初开的兵役时代,一个部队首长的千金,对自己颇有好感,曾悄悄赠送当时很珍贵的上海牌砧石手表,以表心仪,但谁也没有点破。后来双双分别上了不同的军校,男孩有些惧怕女孩父亲的威严,不敢写信,久而久之就放弃了这份感情的追求。没想到他刚结婚,女孩辗转打来电话给他,说自己为了男孩一直未嫁,诚实的男孩无可奈何地说,我已经结婚了。从此,男孩一生都为这段错失的情缘而遗憾。他当我悄悄说,在他心中,一辈子都会有这两个女人。

       男人如此,女人也有类似情况,《廊桥遗梦》的故事正是这样。爱情往往在成功的那一刹那,就变质或消失了。由此可见,一种情感一方面带给人无穷的活力,产生多姿多彩,充满戏剧性的情节,另一方面也带来疲劳、挣扎、痛苦与烦恼。《金婚》中的佟志,一个远乡男人,一边沉浸或者挣扎在北京媳妇文丽给他营造的现实家庭生活中,一边独自聆听并陶醉在红颜知已李天娇推荐给自己交响乐《命运交响曲》中。你说,佟志此时是不是拥有两个女人?一个物质的女人,一个精神的女人。

       当然,遇上这类困境时,应该提升夫妻感情的层次,培养审美的情操,让爱情有所附丽,有所更新,消除审美疲劳,为得到的而感动,感觉它的价值所在,随之化解生命中的困境。感情不像事业,男人对事业的追求,可以是这山望着那山高,对“征服”自己眼球的山头,占一个往后丢一个,再往高攀一个,可以成为顶天立地的征服者。而感情不同,即便过去的皇帝是天下的征服者,可以有三宫六院,但他无法是天下女人真正的征服者。

       《金婚》中的佟志,在极左年代精神出轨,这种超额拥有为道德或良心所不容。他最终回到了文丽的身旁,对无法抹去的“艳遇”淡然一笑,各自仍然按自己的轨道运行,这或许是他们历尽坎坷走向了光明。一个结合着生活着,一个牵挂着祝福着,这种拥有是比较客观普遍的,在当下,虽然任何夫妻都对此持排斥态度,但在社会伦理方面大概不会被无情指责。我甚至想,那些历史上号称忠贞不逾的爱情使者,谁也不能保证他们的情感世界里,没有给另外一个异性留下一个小小的角落,这恐怕是一个男人拥有两个女人的最佳方式

    September 08

    成功有毒

    成功有毒

    成功泛滥与迷失的思考

     

    有人说现代社会有三粒毒药:消费主义、性自由和成功学。


    消费主义是以品牌为噱头,以时尚为药效,将我们深陷在无休止的购买与淘汰的恶性循环中,恋物成瘾,BOSS,COACH,LANCO, 月光族的无比脆弱支撑着外在的点点虚荣.


    性自由是以人性为噱头,以性爱为药效,不断释放暧昧与激情的烟幕弹,纵欲成瘾;每天游走在歌厅,舞场,酒店

    缠绵于勾引与被勾引之中.


    成功,是以速成为噱头,一种以名为药效,误导急于走捷径成为人上人的年轻人投身其中,投机成瘾。一种是以利为药效,正确发展的过程误入歧途,冠以只有向钱看才能向前看的理论,做到一定位置,就茫茫然,天下老子第一的感觉.

     

    三粒毒药中,我对待消费主义有着自己特有的谨慎和克制,知识分子家庭出身的我,父母都是传统中国家长的典范,循规蹈矩的教育让我还有些持家的美德.对待性自由的泛滥也一样,整日的苦读至今还在延续,所以还没来得及接触就已经过了潇洒的年纪,那些无知的泛滥已经成为抨击和不屑的流毒.以亲身感觉,以成功危害最巨——它以教育为名,行“毒”化社会气氛、“毒”化人心、破坏多元价值观之实。


    在成功的逻辑中,什么

    五子登科为最甚,如果你没有赚到“豪宅、名车、年入百万”,如果你没有成为他人艳羡的成功人士,就证明你不行,你犯了“不成功罪”!相继解救你的是助你“实现人生价值”、“开发个人潜能”、“三个月赚到一百万”、“有车有房”、“三十五岁以前退休”的帮助……对成功的追求泛滥于职场和网络,无知的上进人群迷失在多款提升课程和短期培训班里,成功学大师满天飞,成功学培训蔚为大观成产业。(不好意思,我也学了MBA)

     

    静而思,我们何时变得如此迫切渴望成功?成功何以变得如此简单粗暴?那些成功学大师除了演讲收钱还能做什么成功的事?问问自己---我们可不可以不成功?个人奋斗很可嘉,实现自我很诱人,名利滋味很甜美。但一个社会结构中,具考证,成功人士不过1%,且离不开长期实干和机遇。若成功一学就会,且成王败寇,成功人士光荣,非成功人士可耻,那么,社会中99%的大多数还怎么活下去?生活中有许多美好事物和价值,是成功学课程所蔑视、给不了的和教不会的。那么,能不能将成功的标准降低到一个合理的水平呢?!


    走自己的路让别人无路可走??? 当我们身处----成功变成狂热风潮,成功上升为绝对真理般的、人人趋之若鹜的主流价值观,成功就是一粒毒药,而信奉成功学的人就沦为牺牲品。

     

    我愿意牺牲,哈哈哈!(反思无解,自嘲尔!!!)

     
    June 13

    感动生活

    感动生活

     

    生活中,我很容易被一些事物所感动。时常为一部剧的精彩部分而落泪、为一本好书我沁心多日、一首好歌令我拍案动容,哼哼长久。就是生活中一个个不起眼的小场景,也会让我心头一热。但这感觉大多都是稍纵即逝,我知道这就是传说中的灵感。

    感动是一种情绪。我知道只要还在被感动,那就证明我还是一个有激情的人;但此时我把自己感动了,我忘我的工作,努力的生活,虽已不再年轻,却也多愁善感,感动让我无暇观察生活,失去能力感悟生活,但我知道我就在生活里,而且潇洒着,惬意着,幸福着。。。

    我的感动似乎很肤浅。许多人曾经用物欲横流、世态炎凉来形容身边的生活,好象人们感动的神经都被纸醉金迷。也许我也不曾脱俗。诚然,那些舍生取义、舍己救人之类的大仁大义不是随时就会壮烈在我们的身边的,但我依然把无数感动的热泪夹进书册里,让它尽情地发酵酝酿,形成一个个完美的版本,留着再去感动我的后人。这是我必须做的,因为一个没有感动的时代,无论如何是不完美的,就象天空没有太阳,田间没有花朵,人世间没有英雄也没有美女。毕竟我生活的时代还是英雄和美女辈出的时代。说到底,人,怎么能够没有一种感动呢?感动是一种信仰,只要你不冷血。不一定非要惊天地、泣鬼神,其实仅仅一种花开花落的声音就足以让生活律动着一种美好了。如此想来,我的每一次感动,并不只是娇情,而是对生活的一种欣赏、一种享受、一种思考和感恩。我有幸在感动中成熟,发展,并快乐幸福的活着。。。

    数不清人生多少悲欢离合,但更多的却是家常便饭。人间烟火,便是一种本真的感动。

    活着多好!活着,我们可以储蓄金钱也可以储蓄爱情,活着,我们可以享受天伦之乐,活着,我们可以被人关怀和关怀别人,活着,我们可以用自己的脚丈量城市也丈量自己的生活……

    活着,我们可以感动自己,也感动别人!!!

     

    May 12

    日子

     
     
    每天有太多的事情要处理,太多的问题要去思考,茫茫然不知哪里是归宿,哪里是尽头,想想自己自认清高所提倡的:健康生活,快乐工作,似乎成了遥不可及的海市蜃楼,然而想想人的一生,思绪万千。但当安静下来仔细想想,真正让人想一辈子,有时想得惊心动魄,有时不园想但仍然牵肠挂肚,这样的问题并不多。透彻地说,人一辈子只想一个问题,这个问题一视同仁无可回避地摆在每个人面前,令人困惑得足以想一辈子也未毕想得清楚。
     
    回想起来,许多年里纠缠着也连绎着自己的思绪的动机始终未变,它催促我阅读和思考,激励我奋斗和追求,有时也规劝我及时撤退,甘于淡泊。这个时隐时现的,极其简单的命题就是:我的一生该怎样过!
     
    无数的命题,有无数的答案。如果人能永远活着或着活无数次,人生问题的景观就会彻底改变,甚至不会有人生问题的存在了。人生之所以成为一个问题,前提是生命的一次性和短暂性。不过,从只有一个人生这个前提,不同的人,不,同一个人也可以引出不同的结论。也许,困惑正在于这些彼此矛盾的结论都有道理。什么道理?我也讲不清啊!!!也许,智慧也正在于使这些彼此矛盾的结论达成辩证的和解。迷芒,惆怅,彷徨。。。
     
    古往今来,诗哲们关于人生虚无的畏叹不绝于耳。实话讲来,人要悲观实在容易,但是要彻底悲观也并不容易。但凡不是悲观来到马上自杀,求生的本能会找出种种理由来和悲观抗争。事实上,从只有一个人生的前提即可推论出人生了无价值,也可推论出人生弥足珍贵。
     
    尽管人生虚无的悲观如缕不绝,可是劝人执著人生,爱惜光阴的教诲更是谆谆在耳。两相比较,执著比悲观更积极,明智得多。悲观主义是条绝路,冥思苦想人生的虚无,不可能出现柳暗花明的一天,反而窒息了生命的乐趣,不如把这个虚无放到括号里,集中精力做好人生的正面文章。其实仔细想来,既然只有一个人生,世人心目中值得向往的东西无论成功还是幸福,今生得不到就永无等到的希望了,那么怎么呢?何不以紧迫的心情和执著的努力把这一切追求到手呢?即使失去了,我们也曾经努力过,追求过,品味过,苦过,痛过。。。
     
    可是,一味执著也和一味悲观一样,同智慧相去甚远。悲观的危险是对人生持厌弃的态度,执著的危险是对人生持占有的态度。然而人生是占有不了的。毋宁说,它是侥幸落到我们手上的一件礼物,我们迟早要把它交还。还记得有句经典台词讲过:出来混的,迟早要还的。哈哈哈,我们应该怀着从容闲适的心情品味它,而不要让过分急切的追求和得失之患占有我们,使我们不再有品味的心情。在人生中还有比成功和幸福更重要的东西,那就是凌驾于一切成败祸福之上的豁达胸怀。当我们这样理解和认识人生时,我们和我们的身外际遇保持了一个距离,反而和我们的真实人生贴得更近了,这真实的人生或许就是一种既包容又超越身外际遇的丰富的人生阅历和体验吧!!!共勉!!!
     
    河南郑州市
    April 13

    找个宜家风格的女子做老婆

    找个宜家风格的女子做老婆
    (转载)
      对于我们这种平平常常的男人来说,一辈子大概没几个有换老婆的条件和找情人的艳福,所以结婚这样的大事几乎是一次定终身,很少有过后重来并改正错误的机会。这就不免让人大费思量:要找个什么样的女子才可以稳妥幸福的度过我们婚后的漫长日子呢?

      基于现实的理由以及我们自身的条件,我以为最理想的结果就是能找个“宜家风格”的女子做老婆,结成一段平实可靠并实惠的婚姻。至于那些缠绵悱恻让人热情澎湃的所谓爱情,说到底它们不过是文人骚客编出来糊弄无知青少年或者说让有钱有闲阶层模仿着玩的游戏,不是我等平民阶层可以奢求的东西,所以不必煞费苦心的去寻找--实际上也找不到。

      那么,什么样的女子才具有“宜家风格”的特性呢?把我们的理想姻缘寄托在这样的女子身上会得到真正的幸福和快乐吗?

      我想,如果你是一个对婚姻有一点期待,但又不过分苛求的平常男人,那么以下的说明至少会令你有百分之八十以上的满意度,你不想来好好的听听吗?

      她们大多奉行简约主义:这包括她们的装扮,容颜,身份以及个性。一般来说她们不属于那种天生丽质的漂亮姑娘,也不喜欢把自己打扮得过份的花枝招展,但会尽可能的着装得体并显得优雅和有品位。她们大多出身于平常的家庭,通过努力在社会上有一份过得去的工作,个人经历简单顺畅,不会带给你丰盛的嫁妆和梦寐难求的奇迹,却也没有难以容忍的古怪脾气。她们认真而努力的工作,热爱生活也享受生活,有一点点思想,有一点点个性,也有一点点独立性……总的说来她们算得上是那种温和,理性,有教养,处世得体的好女孩。

      一方面她们会显得很现实,是不折不扣基于物质基础的现实主义者,认同“有钱不是万能,没钱万万不能”的现代生活定律。另一方面,她们基本上符合“上得厅堂,下得厨房,进得卧房”的好老婆标准,若是娶到她们,你会很幸运的感觉到在漫漫人生中找到了一个很有益处的好伴侣。她会关心,爱护,体贴这个家。另外在你的事业和生活方面亦会得到她最有力的支持和关爱。

      从一个男人的角度出发,婚后的舒适感受不外乎两个方面,一个是家庭生活方面,一个是精神方面。在家庭生活方面,你将因为与她的结合体味到一种单身生活截然不同的个人感受,不再孤单地望着电视发呆,不再东游西荡吃饭没有规律,不再感到家只是冷冰冰让一个人睡觉的地方,你将开始安定的生活,总之家成了你温馨的休憩地和避风港,这对于那种孤单得太久的男人来说,感觉真的很不错。不过在精神方面,我要提醒诸位千万不要抱有太高的要求,毕竟像钱钟书杨绛,林徽因梁思成这种灵犀互通的夫妻是可遇而不可求的,当然也不必过于颓丧,因为我们大多数人的精神生活还高雅不到那种地步,最多不过是有些小布尔乔亚情调罢了,这倒是她们擅长的领域。

      如同好家具是设计出来的道理一样,好女人也是可以设计出来的。她们因为不具备天生的容貌和气质,所以更懂得这个道理,也善于通过自我设计来改变自己。发挥自己的优势,隐藏自己的劣势是她们自我设计的基本原则,事实上这是很有效的方式,并且随着自身经验的增加和长期不懈的努力,她们将慢慢显出自己的特色来,这时候你会惊讶的发现,当初那个资质平平的丑小鸭已在不知不觉间变成了白天鹅,成了一个圆润、成熟、充满女人味的魅力女性。

      我最为欣赏的,正是这类的女性,最想娶做老婆的,也是这类女性,你们以为如何呢?
    ]


    最适合做老婆的九种女人
                         
    ITDOOR
    男人选择什么样的女人做伴侣,不仅对家庭有很大影响,而且可以说对男人的一生都有很大影响。
        善解人意的女人
    她细心、的有洞察力,能从你表露的一些苗头想问题。快活时与你一同分享,有难言之隐时,她能从你的举手投足中发现,并去劝慰你。
       心地善良的女人
    她始终把你当作一生中最好最亲的人,她不仅对你,而且对邻居、的对你的同事也很乐善好施。你的邻里、的同事会称颂她,从而对你也很尊敬。
       自然优美的女人
    她不是那种花枝招展、的引蜂招蝶的人,她不去追求奢侈的生活,但懂得把自己打扮得令人爽心悦目,她得体的言行也会让你舒心。
        乐观自信的女人
    她乐观豁达,她相信你会取得成功,相信你的胆识和才能。她不会因你的挫折就对你失望,也不会因你的成功而自喜。
        聪慧的女人
    她聪明贤惠,当你遇到什么事情难以决定时,她便告诉你一系列参考意见。她是你的助手,开阔你的思路。
        会理财的女人
    她懂得如何安排你们的收入,让你始终不用为生活操心。她合理安排要做的事,决不会虎头蛇尾,能承担起各种义务,持好家理好财。
        讲究说话艺术的女人
    的她能针对人物的特点交谈,能为你获得良好的人际环境。她也总能把你的意图巧妙地告诉对方。
       独立性强的女人
    她能判断一件事的行与止,并不老缠著你就一些小事让你作出决断。她能独立地工作、的安排家务,她给你充足的时间去考虑单位的事。
        有现代意识的女人
    她有很强的适应性,具有敏锐的观察力和思考能力,她很容易接受新知识,不守旧。在思维方式,做人行事方面也是个现代人,总把你介绍给她的朋友、的同事,把你融进一个更大的社交圈子里。

    March 10

    初识

    初识

    迷萌中醒来,娇洁的月光洒满床上,地上,我的身上,也一缕缕的泄到我的心里。有多久没留意到这样的美好,这样的清新?我也记不得拉。曾几何时,不断的问自己,我是第一个看到春天草绿,夏天花开,秋天落叶,冬天飘雪的人吗,只是想提醒自己,除了那些,那些,还有生活,还要有心境,那才是自由,真正的心的自由。

     

    突然记起前几日,一狐朋密友,在快乐和谐之际,突然抱住我痛苦流涕,很快就浸湿我的衣衫。爱上一好酒之女,不喝正好,一喝既多类型,且酒后无型,每每日落必与友人共饮,直至凌晨,常常不能返家,流浪各大酒店栖身。回想初识美丽姣人,友痛苦不言,每每接女友归,男友皆一路感怀落泪,悲苦难堪!正犹豫分手,内心可见脆弱。

     

    人生若只如初见,何事西风悲画扇?
    等闲变却故人心,却道故人心易变。

     

    骊山语罢清宵半,夜雨霖铃终不怨。
    何如薄幸锦衣儿,比翼连枝当日愿。

     

    忘记是谁的词拉,因为喜欢第一句,所以搜来了全诗,也才知道这是首纳兰词。每每读到“人生若只如初见,何事秋风悲画扇?等闲变却故人心,却道故人心易变。”几句,心,不由的一颤。会痛!!!


    人生若只如初见,你我还如初见时的模样,该是多么美好的故事。
    原来人生就是这么无奈,猜得中绚烂的开头,可又有谁能预见得到那早已注定的结局?

    宝黛初见,心有灵犀,恍若旧识重逢,再见时花落人亡,一捧黄土终掩风流;西厢初见,风流不用千金买,月影花移玉人来,再见时封侯血染伞落,可怜梦里几番哀;金屋初见,千娇百媚,永世相守,而色衰爱驰之日,终于千金难买长门赋;华清池中温泉水滑,长生殿里夜半私语,又有谁会料到结局是马隗坡前数丈白绫、一垉黄土?

     

    情深不寿,天妒红颜。后来的故事总是那么凄惨。马嵬坡上明皇终是背弃了玉环,无法想象那南方荔枝的甜怎化得掉草坡上黄花的辛酸味道。人生若只如初见,愿宝黛初会就各自转身,两两相忘,省却那滴不尽的相思血泪抛红豆;愿刘彻不忘若得阿娇做妇,必造金屋藏之的诺言,免却阿娇幽居长门宫里千金求取相如赋;让牛郎、织女天上人间,男耕女织,做一对平凡的逍遥夫妻;让相如莫要忘记凤求凰的雅意,莫要辜负文君夜奔、当垆卖酒的勇气。

     

    初见,惊艳。蓦然回首,曾经沧海,风再起,换了人间!

    人生若只如初见,省去后来种种莫测的变化,愿你我把邂逅时刻谈笑自若、百无禁忌的刹那心动凝固,不能前进一步亦无须后退百里,不能亲密无间亦无须躲避远离。有情不必终老,暗香浮动恰好。无情未必就是决绝,我只要你记着,初见时彼此的欢笑。

     

    人生若只如初见...多少过去,已经如风般远去了.初见,那时,还记的么?也许忘记了吧.

     抬头望月,人道月光如水,我道月光如烟花,漫天的美丽后,只留下一缕青烟,飘荡在空气里...留在你我的心里.

    March 09

    Top 10 tech we miss

    Top 10 tech we miss

    By Rafe Needleman
    Technology evolves. Good technologies and products usually survive; poor ones usually go extinct. But not all of the technologies and tech products that have swirled down the drain of the tech gene pool deserved their fate. Here are some big, and some small, ideas that we thought we'd have with us forever, but that unfortunately have gone the way of the dodo.

    Manned space exploration

    It's been 33 years since humans have set foot on the moon or journeyed beyond the close orbit of the Earth. In other words, we've stopped exploring. Sure, robotic spaceships and Mars rovers are adding to our knowledge of the universe, but the last people to explore the final frontier are past retirement age--and so are the engineers who put them there. In other words, next time we go into space, we're going to have to retrain people from scratch. There may be no firsthand knowledge of what it's like to be in space or to build a space vehicle. This is progress?

    Kozmo.com

    At the height of the dot-com bubble, you could get a candy bar delivered to your door for the price of...a candy bar. Kozmo, an online store and delivery service, promised fast, friendly delivery of almost anything: a DVD rental, a bag of groceries, or just a single pack of gum. It was incredibly convenient and a heck of a bargain. It was also too good to be true. The cost of the small-time deliveries contributed to the demise of this great idea.

    Napster
    This is the one that started it all: The peer-to-peer network let you share your music collection with anybody in the world, and more importantly, get all the world's music tracks downloaded to your computer. The only problem: Sharing digital assets this way was decreed to be illegal, which was not helped by the fact that on the original Napster, you couldn't pay for music even if you wanted to. Napster was summarily shut down by the authorities. The brand has since been resurrected as a paid music site. It's not the same.
    The Concorde
    Many of us thought that one day, when we were millionaires, we'd take a jaunt around the world on the supersonic jet. If you're still waiting for fortune to knock on your door, you're too late: the Concorde stopped flying in 2003, victim of economic factors and the aftermath of its only fatal crash. It's ironic that as aeronautical technology has moved ever forward, the only supersonic aircraft the public could fly on has been retired. Now all of us, rich and poor alike, have to obey the pedestrian speed limit of sound.
    GM's EV1
    Even today's superclean hybrid cars are still polluters--their electric batteries are recharged by small gas engines. But up until 2003, you could lease a true zero-emission electric car from General Motors: the EV1. It was a science-fiction car of the first order, and it looked it--all swoopy lines and space-egg aerodynamics. None were made available for sale. When the leases on the EV1s expired, GM recalled the cars, over the ardent objections of many of the lessees, who protested, begged, and lobbied GM to let them buy their vehicles. GM would not relent, and, citing concerns over liability and parts availability, even took to crushing some of these high-tech marvels to keep them off the road.
    The original Palm Pilot
    Introduced in 1994, the original Pilot was a model of simplicity. It was an excellent pocket calendar and address book, and it synchronized sufficiently well with a desktop computer to make it a solid PC companion. With so many new Palm Pilots shipping today, why do we miss the original? Because the 1.0 Pilot never crashed. Its simplicity was its blessing. You'd think that after 11 years, this is the one feature that we'd keep.
    Good keyboards
    Once upon a time, using a computer was a loud, tactile affair. The keyboards on early IBM PCs were heavy, had a great feel, and made a satisfying clacking noise when you typed, thanks to the expensive "buckling spring" design for the switches. They could also take a beating, which was important for people who were making the transition from pounding on manual typewriters. Nobody ships a PC with a good keyboard anymore, although you can still get IBM-style keyboards from Unicomp.
    Wires
    Try to buy communications equipment today--it's all wireless. Wireless networks, cellular phones, Bluetooth headsets. We say, bring back wires. Wired communications are faster, cheaper, and less prone to interference and don't need batteries. Want to make a clear phone call? Pick up an ordinary telephone with a good old coiled handset cord. Want really fast networking? Use wired Ethernet for a gigabit a second. We like portability, but our lust for cord-free technology has gone too far.
    LPs
    This is an argument for the ages. Many music lovers say the analog technology of vinyl records, where sound waves are recorded as bumps and waves in the record groove, provides a more authentic, warmer sound than the digital recording technologies of CDs and MP3s. Today, LPs are the province of music collectors and scratch artists. Many people still have substantial collections of LPs and no way to play them. Our recommendation: record your prized LPs to digital files while you still have a working record player. You won't be able to completely capture the analog sound, but at least you'll preserve the memories of this ancient technology.
    The Newton
    When Apple gets things right, it's spectacular (think iPod), but when the company messes up, it's a hoot. The first popular pen-based PDA, the Apple Newton, was big, expensive, and too smart for its britches. Early models tried to interpret handwriting with often amusing results, making words out of users' scrawls that often combined into surreal "Newton Poetry." We miss the Newton because what it thought we meant was often far more interesting than what we were really trying to say.

    March 05

    尼泊尔游记2

    飞越珠穆朗玛

     

    五星级酒店文明世界的早餐过后,神情抖擞,有来了精神,我们四个金牌销售使出浑身解数,终于说服淳朴的尼人用他那BIG CAR 把我们运去机场, 仅仅为了节省平日我们几乎失去概念的200卢比(18块RMB), 绻缩着身体挤在车了, 分享着我们在国内没有机会的节省,享受着砍价后的占到便宜的快感, (现在想来,平日做作的爱心,可能因为旅游的兴奋忘记带了,哎,还是留在国内吧.)

     

    昨天来时的国际机场,虽不豪华,但毕竟还算洁净和秩序,看看面前的尼国国内机场,一栋200平米的小二楼,混乱而肮脏,大多是不同肤色的旅游者,夹杂在当地搬运工似的人群中,没有什么CHECK IN DESK,一个小木桌,一台国内用来称动物的大铁称,后面就是一个小而破的门,算是通道吧,巨大的反差着实让我们大吃一惊,不过,毕竟是国内出发啊,人不嫌家丑,就把自己当尼人吧,好在我们的适应能力还算很强啊,哈哈哈

     

    尼国是个多雾的国家,飞机很难准时起飞,这是我们在国内时就被朋友提醒过的拉,所以没有惊讶的我们坐在二楼的挂着COFFE SHOP的小吃部里面,耐心的等,里面都是来自己西方的,带着大大登上包的旅游者,或是冒险家吧,骄傲的是,我们是仅仅的四个黄皮肤.喝着不知道是什么味道的COFFE,玩着早已准备好的扑克,回想起来,好不惬意,悠闲,快活...我想用一切愉快的词汇去形容当时的心情.

     

    2小时后,终于登上了尼泊尔皇家航空公司提供的20人的小型飞机,我们义无反顾的冲上云宵,兴奋

    地期待飞跃那些全世界最高的山峰的时刻到来,几乎每一位游客都会摒住呼吸,怕万一惊动了一种力量,怕失手玷污了一种纯粹,更怕不小心错过了一处惊奇。

     

    飞跃雪山这项全世界独一无二的旅游活动让我们有机会绝对近距离地鸟瞰那些平生难得一见的世界顶峰。包括珠穆朗玛峰在内(英语叫做Mount Everest or Mt.Everest), 附近的一些景观如坎秦军嘎峰,青藏高原都会被您从高处“征服”。面对它们,不管你是来自世界的哪里,不管你做着什么样的工作,都会惊叹自己的渺小和无知…

     

    面对着地球最高峰,领略亘古不变的万籁俱寂。我们应该想些什么呢?

     

    我们有理由平静下来!!!

    假如回到没有电视,没有电脑,没有电话,没有汽车的年代,生活的步履就不会像现在这样的匆忙而凌乱…

    只是我们已经无法回到从前,假如不是刻意为之,我们甚至都忘记了没有灯光,没有喧哗的夜晚,抬头数星星的时候,心竟然也可以那般地平静.假如不是刻意为之,舍弃珍羞美味之后,我们竟也可以如此享受粗茶淡饭.现代文明带来的物质富有,多少是用我们的浮燥和空虚作为代价的.

    身边的每个人似乎都是那么劳累,每个人似乎都在被无形而又无望的未来压迫着,牵扯着,每个人似乎都宣称想要逃离,只是逃离的脚步会如次的忧郁.每个人似乎都认为自己得了抑郁症…

    如果注定无法逃离尘世,我们就该拯救自己,让我们每一天的脚步比昨天稍稍地慢一些,从容的步伐让我们有机会感悟身边的人和事,不再错过美好的风景和我们心心相印的人儿.

     

    我们在一个惊险刺激的俯冲里“征服”了群山

     

    飞行历时一个小时,然后向东飞行,很快就会知道前面等待我们的是什么——除了山还是山。哈哈哈

     首先远远望见的是海拔8013米的戈塞罕峰,也叫希夏邦马峰。紧随其右,像一个白雪覆盖下平躺的“8”字的是杜杰拉卡帕峰,海拔6966米。杜杰拉卡帕峰右边是费尔比-戈亚楚峰,紧邻加德满都峡谷。随着飞机前行,群山越来越近。随后进入视野的是海拔5993米的楚巴哈马拉峰,群峰中最小但登山者却最多的山峰。然后是戈里-沙卡尔峰,海拔7134米,不仅带给您视觉上的冲击,而且给您心灵的震撼。传说湿婆神和她的妻子就居住于此,1979年以前,从未见到有人成功登上这座山峰的记载,这是飞行途中最引人注目的一座山峰。飞机继续向东,继之而来的是绵延雄伟的喜马拉雅山脉。梅伦格特瑟峰,海拔7032米,如同一座高台。楚基玛格峰,海拔6297米,仍如处子,期待着登山者。海拔6956米的那姥贝峰,形如乳房,给夏尔巴人提供甘甜的乳汁。卡娅伦峰,海拔5651米,银白色的山峰映着朝阳,闪闪发光。楚-玉峰,世界第八高峰,海拔8201米,从飞机上看,让人目眩神迷。接下来的是海拔7952米,公认为极难攀登的格亚莼坎峰,。它右边是海拔7161米的普莫利峰,紧邻珠穆朗玛峰的是海拔7855米的那朴特瑟峰,尼泊尔语的意思是西峰,意即它处于珠穆朗玛峰的西面。最后是高达8848米的珠穆朗玛峰,地球上的最高峰,尼泊尔人称之扎噶玛达峰,至今仍是一个未解之谜。

    March 01

    Users Who Know Too Much

    http://www.cio.com/archive/021507/fea_user_mgmt.html?page=3

    Users Who Know Too Much
    (And the CIOs Who Fear Them)

    A new IT department is being born. You don't control it. You may not even be aware of it. But your users are, and figuring out how to work with it will be the key to your future and your company's success. An April 2006 survey by the Pew Internet and American Life Project found that 45 percent of adults who use the Internet said it has improved their ability to do their jobs “a lot.”

    These are your employees, and their message couldn’t be clearer: Technology, at least in their eyes, has made them significantly more productive. But CIOs shouldn’t be patting themselves on the back just yet. For this productivity boost the study credits the Internet, not enterprise IT, not the technology you provide, not, in short, you. And while Pew’s finding undoubtedly includes people who use the Internet to access your corporate applications, Lee Rainie, the Pew project director, says the research is not pointing to what a good job CIOs have been doing.

    It tells a different tale.

    “The big story is that the boundary that existed in people’s lives between the workplace and the home has broken down,” says Rainie. Almost unlimited storage and fast new communication tools allow people to use whatever information they choose, whenever they want to, from wherever is most convenient for them.

    According to Pew, 42 percent of Internet users download programs, 37 percent use instant messaging, 27 percent have used the Internet to share files, and 25 percent access the Internet through a wireless device. (And these numbers are all one or two years old. Rainie “would bet the ranch” that the current numbers are higher.)

    Does that sound like the tools you’ve provided your company’s employees? Do you encourage them to download programs and share files? Do you support IM? Have you outfitted a quarter of your company’s employees with wireless devices?

    Really?

    “A consequence of the blending of worlds is that people bring gadgets from their home life into the workplace and vice versa,” says Rainie. For example, a December 2006 survey by Searchsecurity.com found that only 29 percent of companies had a corporate instant messaging tool, a number that seems relatively small when compared with the percentage of people Pew says use IM in the office.

    Users have a history of providing their own technology, but the capabilities of today’s consumer IT products and the ease with which users can find them is unprecedented. Thumb drives, often given away free at conferences, provide gigabytes of transportable storage. Google spreadsheets and other online documents let multiple people collaborate in one file. The Motorola Q, a phone that uses the cell network as an always-on high-speed Internet connection (and can be yours for just $125 on eBay) lets users forward their work e-mail to their phones without ever touching a mail server. And that’s only three examples. There’s a consumer technology out there for every task imaginable—and if there isn’t, there’s a tool that will let someone create it tomorrow.

    The era in which IT comes only from your IT department is over.

    So where does that leave you?

    The Shadow IT Department

    The consumer technology universe has evolved to a point where it is, in essence, a fully functioning, alternative IT department. Today, in effect, users can choose their technology provider. Your company’s employees may turn to you first, but an employee who’s given a tool by the corporate IT department that doesn’t meets his needs will find one that does on the Internet or at his neighborhood Best Buy.

    The emergence of this second IT department—call it “the shadow IT department”—is a natural product of the disconnect that has always existed between those who provide IT and those who use it.

    And that disconnect is fundamental. Users want IT to be responsive to their individual needs and to make them more productive. CIOs want IT to be reliable, secure, scalable and compliant with an ever increasing number of government regulations. Consequently, when corporate IT designs and provides an IT system, manageability usually comes first, the user’s experience second. But the shadow IT department doesn’t give a hoot about manageability and provides its users with ways to end-run corporate IT when the interests of the two groups do not coincide.

    “Employees are looking to enhance their efficiency,” says André Gold, director of information security at Continental Airlines. “People are saying, ‘I need this to do my job.’” But for all the reasons listed above, he says, corporate IT usually ends up saying no to what they want or, at best, promising to get to it...eventually. In the interim, users turn to the shadow IT department.

    For many good and not-so-good reasons, the CIO’s first instinct frequently is to fight the shadow IT department whenever and wherever he detects it. But that approach, according to people who have thought long and hard about this potential war between IT departments, is a recipe for stalemate, if not outright defeat for CIOs.

    The employees in your company are using consumer IT to work faster, more efficiently and, in many cases, longer hours. Some are even finding new and better ways to get work done. CIOs should be applauding this trend. But when you shut down consumer IT, says William Harmer III, assistant vice president of architecture and technology of financial services company Manulife, “You end up as a dissuader of innovation.”

    Yes, the shadow IT department presents corporate IT with security and compliance challenges. Users could be opening holes in the corporate firewall (by downloading insecure programs), exposing company data irresponsibly (by scattering laptops, handhelds, and thumb drives hither and yon) and handling information in any number of ways that could violate any number of federal regulations. But CIOs need to deal with these problems strategically, not draconically.

    “There’s a simple golden rule,” says David Smith, a vice president and research fellow at Gartner. “Never use security and compliance as an excuse for not doing the right thing. Never use these as sticks or excuses for controlling things. When you find that people have broken rules, the best thing to do is try to figure out why and to learn from it.”

    Successful companies will learn how to strike a productive balance between consumer IT—and the innovative processes for which employees are using these tools—and the need to protect the enterprise. This will require CIOs to reexamine the way they relate to users, and to come to terms with the fact that their IT department will no longer be the exclusive provider of technology within an organization. This, says Smith, is the only way to stay relevant and responsive. CIOs who ignore the benefits of consumer IT, who wage war against the shadow IT department, will be viewed as obstructionist, not to mention out of touch. And once that happens, they will be ignored and any semblance of control will fly out the window.

    And that won’t be good for anyone.

    How the Shadow IT Department Works

    Here’s an all-too-common response to the shadow IT department, courtesy of Bill Braun, vice president of information systems for the Texas Credit Union League: “What’s good for me is that it’s simple to say no [to consumer IT]. There goes most of the problem. Possibly some of the benefit, but certainly the problem.”

    Passing over the fact that Braun admits that he’s willing to forgo the potential innovations consumer IT can provide, this approach also assumes that the shadow IT department has a similar structure to its corporate counterpart and can be managed in the same way.

    It doesn’t and it can’t.

    The shadow IT department is an entirely different beast.

    Corporate IT is highly structured, with one individual or a small group controlling the nodes in a network and their relationships to one another. The shadow IT department, on the other hand, has no central authority and at best an ill-defined hierarchy; nodes join on their own and develop their own relationships. Marty Anderson, a professor at the Olin Graduate School of Business at Babson College, calls corporate IT a command architecture and shadow IT an emergent architecture. Command architectures are set up to make them easy to manage and, as a result, they respond to top-down orders. Emergent architectures contain no dominant node and therefore provide no lever by which to manage them. That’s why it is impossible to kill the shadow IT department or keep it out of your company. It has no head to cut off or single channel to dam.

    It’s natural for corporate IT to feel threatened by the shadow IT department, but the truth is that they already coexist everywhere. “The two have always been present,” says Anderson. “The management skill is noticing where they intersect and coming up with a strategy for dealing with it.”

    For example, a similar dynamic has long played out in HR. A company’s employees have titles and reporting relationships that give their work a formal structure. But at the same time every company has an informal structure determined by expertise, interpersonal relationships, work ethic, overall effectiveness and so on. Companies suffer when HR is out of phase with the informal structure. Employees are demoralized when the formal architecture elevates someone at the bottom of the informal architecture, and people who occupy the top spots in the informal architecture leave when they aren’t recognized by the formal one. Good HR departments know where employees stand in both the formal and informal architectures and balance the two.

    IT needs to learn how to strike a similar balance. Corporate IT isn’t going to go away, and neither are the systems that IT has put in place over the years. But a CIO who doesn’t develop a strategy to accommodate the shadow IT department will be employing an outdated and (more important) an inefficient business model. And, like the HR department that ignores the informal relationships in a company, the CIO might lose sight of how his users actually work. Corporate IT thereby loses its authority and, eventually, the CIO loses his job. It won’t happen quickly, but it will happen. As Anderson puts it, “It will be like getting nibbled to death by ducks.”

    How to Make Peace With Shadow IT

    Techniques will differ for each company depending upon its business, the degree of regulation to which it’s subject, its risk tolerance and so on, but some principles are universally applicable. Here are some starting points.

    1. Find out how people really work.

    Whether you know it or not, your company’s employees are using technology of their choosing, or using technology of your choosing in ways you never intended. Brian Flynn, senior VP of IT at BCD Travel, found this out when he deployed software that monitored the content moving across his network. Not only were employees using consumer IT tools (like IM) but they were using IT-provided applications to do things that were clearly security risks (such as sending sensitive information back and forth).

    “I am convinced that most companies are flying blind,” says Flynn. “This is going on everywhere and IT just doesn’t know.”

    Fight your instinct to discourage these behaviors by legislating against them. Yes, there may be security and compliance risks, but declaring open war on the shadow IT department will only turn it into an insurgency, driving it underground where it will be harder to monitor and harder to negotiate with. Instead, consider this an opportunity to find out where the IT you’ve provided is out of sync with your users’ needs.

    2. Say yes to evolution.

    CIOs need to make users feel comfortable about bringing their underground behavior into the light. The first step is a change in attitude.

    “We tend to think of people who think out of the box as troublemakers,” says Flynn. “But we need to realize that maybe they know what they’re talking about and maybe we should try to meet them halfway if we can.”

    Always try to help users figure out a safe and secure way to do whatever it is they’re trying to do. “People get used to [IT] telling them no, and after a while they stop telling you what they’re doing,” says Continental’s Gold. “So we try to say yes, dot dot dot.”

    Rob Israel, CIO of the John C. Lincoln Health Network, has developed a policy that formalizes this mind-set.

    “I’m the only person in IT allowed to say no,” he says. Conversely, his IT employees have only three options: approve a request, research it or pass it up to him. According to Gold and Israel, getting a reputation for saying yes will encourage users to come to you with ideas. That gives you the chance to learn what it is that the user is really trying to do and come up with a way to do it that won’t compromise security.

    As irrelevant or irresponsible as some shadow IT projects seem on the surface, it’s important to accept the fact that users do things for reasons. If they are e-mailing critical files among themselves, it’s because they need to work on something from a different location and that’s the most direct solution that they can come up with. IT’s job shouldn’t be figuring out how to prevent the user from accessing and moving files, but rather to find a solution that lets him take that file home in a way that doesn’t make the company vulnerable and isn’t any more complex than the method that the user discovered on his own.

    That last part is important. “No one,” says Flynn, “will jump through hoops.” They’ll go around them.

    Gold says that most shadow IT projects are attempts to solve simple problems, and it’s easy for CIOs to mitigate the risks if they’re willing. For example, Gold found that people were taking files home on thumb drives. Instead of trying to outlaw the practice, he began distributing thumb drives with encryption software on them. The users’ experience never changed. “It was common sense to keep both security and how people work in mind,” he says.

    3. Ask yourself if the threat is real.

    The other part of developing a say-yes reputation is realizing which shadow IT projects really represent a security threat and which just threaten IT’s position as the sole god of technology provisioning. Maria Anzilotti, CIO of Camden Property Trust, a real estate developer, says that she has continued to allow IM even though most people use it for nonwork purposes. “We looked at the risk and decided it wasn’t worth [shutting it down],” she says. “A lot of people use it to communicate with their kids. It’s faster and less disruptive than phone calls.

    “We keep an eye on it.”

    Killing a shadow IT app without appreciating how thoroughly it’s been integrated into a company’s workflow can have unanticipated and unfortunate consequences. When Gold shut down IM at Continental, he got an angry call from an employee in the fuel management group who was using it (successfully) to negotiate jet fuel pricing for the airline.

    Oops.

    When a CIO prohibits people from using a technology that doesn’t pose a real security threat or doesn’t adversely affect his budget, he is setting himself up as a tin idol, a moral arbiter. That’s a guaranteed way to antagonize users. And that’s never a good idea.

    4. Enforce rules, don’t make them.

    There’s a fine line between providing access to data and determining who should have access to it. And Manulife’s Harmer says IT often crosses it.

    “I own the infrastructure,” he says, “but the business owns the data.” IT creates artificial hurdles for employees when it makes blanket judgments about access that affect the entire company. “The key is not to paint all the users the same,” says Harmer.

    Lincoln Health’s Israel deals with this challenge every day. It’s one thing, he says, for his nursing staff to search the Internet for the word breast; it’s another for someone in the accounting department. But if Israel installed a filter that prevented access to (apparently) pornographic websites, his nurses might not be able to find information that they need to treat a patient. The solution is for IT to provide tools that let an individual’s manager decide what information she needs to do the job.

    “IT doesn’t know everything the business knows,” says Gold. “So it’s hard for me to make rules about who should have access to what.”

    5. Be invisible.

    Most companies have long lists of policies and regulations with which everyone must comply. But lists don’t enforce themselves.

    “I wrote all the policies [here], and I only know two of them well,” says Israel. “So it’s unreasonable for an IT department to expect users to know them all. But we can put systems in place that put some automation behind our policies.”

    Manulife’s Harmer says that the key is to develop an approach that secures data without depending upon how a user accesses it or what he does with it.

    “The way I approach it is to bring the controls closer to the data,” he says. “That means not relying on a firewall but trying to figure out what I’m actually trying to protect and then dealing with it appropriately.”

    At Continental, this type of approach has led to a change in the way the IT department designs systems. “Ninety percent of the applications we have that involve sensitive data are things we’ve written,” Gold explains. All that data was protected...as long as the user accessed it from the application IT built. But when a manager tried to compare revenue for different cities by copying the data into Excel (something Gold says happens routinely), the information was suddenly placed at risk. With this in mind, Gold encouraged the IT department to build encryption and other safeguards directly into the applications. That way, when a user pastes the revenue figures into a spreadsheet, the data, not the sanctity and integrity of the application (which are irrelevant), will still be protected.

    Messy But Fertile Beats Neat But Sterile

    IT has a natural tendency to think about technology in a system-centric way. Systems automate workflow and control access to information. And for a long time these systems made work and workers more efficient. “But there has always been a bright line between IT systems and what people really wanted to do,” says Babson’s Anderson.

    “I used to have users come to me as if I was the almighty IT god,” says Israel, who recalls those as “the good old days.” But in that sense, god is dead, and IT’s authority and sense of purpose can no longer derive from controlling how people use technology.

    “IT can’t insist on doling out IT,” says Gartner’s Smith. “The demographics of the workforce are changing. Younger people who are more familiar with technology are coming in, and they will not sit still while [CIOs] dole out corporate apps. If you want to retain the best and the brightest, you can’t lock down your environment.”

    Smith advises CIOs to try to stop thinking about technology as something that must always be enterprise class. There are plenty of Web-based tools that can meet their users’ needs and not cost the company a dime. “Be open-minded and bring them in where appropriate,” he says.

    Does that mean that the enterprise is going to become a messier place? Absolutely. That’s an inevitable consequence of user-centric IT. But messiness isn’t as bad as stagnation.

    “Controlled chaos is always OK,” says Gold. “If you want to be an innovator and leverage IT to get a competitive advantage, there has to be some controlled chaos.”

     

     

    尼泊尔游记1

    初识满都

    大概是5个小时的飞行,尼航的“捍姐”在广播中通知已经安全降落。我去过很多的地方,英国,美国,澳大利亚,东南亚,无处不是新鲜于中国,特色于中国,这种期待伴随我顺利通过洁净,并不宽敞的国际通道,印象深刻,而好奇的是,当我经过出发通道时,通过宽大的玻璃窗,里面满是等待登机的旅客,棕黑,土黑的,一张张没有笑容的面孔,想像如兽笼待宰的。。。来时就知道这种国家具有刁难外国游客的风俗,和僻好,移民官笑着讲着什么,或许是他们的语言吧,没去理会,他黑黑的脸庞扭曲着,靠近过来,反复重复着,搞什么???我不会尼语,我尽量把英文讲的很慢,我讲的是英语,移民官有点急,不过我听懂了他在讲英语,我是说欢迎来尼泊尔,哈哈哈,苍天啊,他一直昵喃的居然是英语。我开始担心自己在这个国家会举步为艰啊。

    出了国际到达口,犹如掉进了无遮掩的乡村集市,嘈杂而混乱,“逼个尬”,一些民工样的人叫嚷着来拉我的行李,让我紧张的愤怒起来,尼国的形式动荡也让我暗生恐惧,不过很快我就搞明白他们的意识,“BIG CAR”,原来他们是出租汽车的人,我们4个人,选择了一名叫嚷声音最大,表情最诚恳的年轻人,随着他挤过喧嚣的人群,天啊,一辆比“面的”还小的大车立在那里,我还试图张望着寻找一辆略微大点的车,我失望拉,满眼的奥拓大小的车横竖的挺在出入的道路上,我们快乐着,抱怨着把自己塞进这BIG CAR,还照相留念,以示没有夸张成分。看着年轻人熟练地启动,出发,我有点喜欢这年轻人了,他很诚实,的确这辆算得上“BIG CAR”啊!!!

    很快就进了加德满都的地界,我记得那些尘土飞扬的马路和凌乱的尼泊尔文招牌是我对这个城市的第一个印象,进入加德满都看到的建筑都很矮,没有什么规划。给我印象深刻的是我们在破旧不堪的小享里穿行,没有路灯,没有行人,犹如迷失在丛林里的羔羊,不知道我们要去哪里,也不知道前面是什么在等着我们,任人宰割的在恐惧中相互鼓励,和自慰。

    出租车终于开出了我们以为没有尽头的小巷,WOW,眼前豁然开朗,反差令我震惊,一条洁净的街道,高高的围墙,里面的豪华建筑透着奢华的灯光,我知道我们已经站在整个王国的中心地带 ----加德满都的皇宫。我们终于不可救药无法挽回地和尼泊尔正面遭遇了!

    至今我仍然可以回忆起当时的壮烈:

    我的怀里抱着冲出机场时候断了背带的廉价旅行背包;双手保护着我的口袋,里面揣着我的护照、一张已经到这里完全丧失功能了的工行储蓄卡、还有一张救命的维萨卡,包里还有几百块可以救命的美金。我的眼睛四川张望着,犹如一只漂亮的钱包,看上去鼓鼓囊囊满是期待但其实里面都是羞涩和畏惧只是不敢示人;

    我的未来突然之间在这个繁忙而神秘的国际化旅游胜地迷失了,仿佛被命运残忍地丢在一片茫茫大海上,人在江湖的我,江湖却没有我的传说,我感觉自己将无声无息的成为认识我,和不认识我的人的神秘话题,此时,只有天上偶尔出现的星星能够指引一些方向,但是船上的人根本不会游泳,糟糕的是船还漏水。

    RADISSION酒店是当地的五星级就店,鹤立鸡群地矗立在一些专门卖东西给外国游客的林立的商铺中间,酒店的豪华让我感觉又回到了现实社会,仅仅6-7小时的旅程,真的如同跨越了时空,在现实和虚幻中潜行,我要好好的冲洗自己的头脑,做好迎接未知世界的准备,否则,我怕我会疯,不过我不会咬人,哈哈哈。

    安定下来,我们的心也安静下来,猎奇的心又开始萌动,我们决定稍微看看这个地方,吃点东西,然后决定。当时给我印象很深的一点是这里的西方游客大概占到街上路人的一半,两边密密麻麻的各色商店都很热闹,有餐馆、面包店、书店、卖工艺品或者服装的铺面。房子都很老,街道很窄,很明显和大部分国家一样旅游购物街都倾向于有地方特色的老街。房子的高度在3层到4层之间,每一层都在做生意。我们找了个看起来像酒吧的地方先坐下,酒吧很有特色,幽暗的灯光,粗狂的布置,让人蛮舒服的感觉,想尽快的喝点酒,于是每个人很小心很仔细地看了菜单上的菜价,哈哈哈,没人知道应该点些什么,叫来那个尼泊尔男孩子服务生,他和我们东方人长得一个样子,皮肤一点都不象其他人那样黑。于是就问他是不是中国人--我真傻!答案当然是不是,尼泊尔有很多民族住在和西藏很接近的地方,应该属于蒙古人种。另外一个和西藏接近的南亚国家是不丹,他们很多人也是和我们长相差不多的。服务生推荐了些特色的菜饭,我们如数要了,还点了一瓶南澳的红酒,待到结账时,每个人都在偷偷的窃喜,便宜!!!!

     

    从餐馆出来后,第一个和我热情打招呼并且我现在还记得的尼泊尔人出现了,他是一个小店的 托,叫出的价格比我们了解到的要贵出2倍,虽然对我们来讲依然便宜,可是我们艰苦朴素的品质告诉我们,我们要认真对待我们的每100块卢比(100卢比=9块人民币)。